She is my friend who is fond of wearing the shortest
possible pants exposing the majority of her body which I never understood why!
So I asked one day, “Do you always prefer this attire and is your family
comfortable with it?” She replied, “You are talking to a strong feminist and
you can get the hell out of business regarding what I wear and what I don’t!”
Now, there were two things I felt uneasy about. One, she
acted rude and second, she had altogether taken the wrong turn while walking on
the path of feminism. Although I get the hell out of that business but I had to
respond.
I am not a man who is an anti-feminist. In fact I strongly
favour the equality between all the genders regarding rights and opportunities.
But I won’t advocate letting a person go being rude without being paid a healthy
response. And I don’t patronize ‘short pants’ being a symbol of feminism.
To be equal you need to capitalize the opportunities you get
and to capitalize the opportunities, you need to be strong and capable. Now,
there is no absolute theory or enough experimental instances proving a direct
proportionate relation between being strong and being rude. May be you don’t
realize but you can doubtlessly stay calm, composed and gentle while going
strong.
Anyways, suppose a situation where you are in a metro train
and a man is sitting on the reserved seat for the ladies. You are left with two
choices. You can let the man sit proving your equality of strength and decide
to remain unseated making your point. Or, you can ask the man to vacate it
demanding your rightful seat. The point is you can take any of the decision
with or without the short pants. Your actions will measure the level of your
feminism not the apparel. I mean, wear the short pants if you want to but don’t
claim yourself to be a feminist on the basis of that. It is more like cashing
in your personal desires of fashion under the umbrella of feminism.
I do get aware of the rapes victimizing women, through
newspapers and television and it occurred to me that may be wearing short pants
is a way of expressing anger challenging all such inhumane behaviour. I
understand the outrage but still I would suggest not doing so because if
somebody someday will accept your challenge one on one, you’ll be less likely
to win unless you are well trained in some kind of defensive technique or art. It
is actually an undeniable fact that you lack the equivalency in physical
strength when compared to that of a man.
Before you could make judgements about myself, claiming my
unbiased state to the topic I would proceed further voicing that mere the
feeling of exploration of rather hidden part of the body itself is capable of
giving arousals to humans. And it should! I mean, it’s preposterous to see a
juicy thigh and not to get aroused. But we, the gentlemen, suppress all our
stimulations and present ourselves being very casual and easy. We do so,
because we have a reputation to protect, obligations to take care of and
responsibilities to carry. But we mustn’t forget how full our country is with
people who don’t have any of these. In fact, there even are incidents when the
devil of few reputed personalities too overcame their power of staying gentle.
I have seen this picture of a girl, below which it was
quoted “Even if I walk naked, I have not given you the right to rape.” True. I
agree that you haven’t but neither has anyone else. Not even our constitution!
But still there is body governing the law and order because the constitution
makers felt that there’ll be elements in the society who won’t pay much heed to
what rights belong to them and what not.
Do you sleep in your house every night with the doors and
windows open? No, because it would make your house vulnerable to the thieves
who are outside there. It’s equally unwise to make yourself vulnerable when
there are people outside there who don’t think twice before materializing their
internal stimulations. I am not asking you to abolish your fashion desires but
please do chose the occasion, company and environment wisely before executing
such yearns.
If you’ll take a step on the path of constructive feminism,
I’ll push you to take one more. But walking naively without understanding the
real meaning of it will make you something I wouldn’t recommend you to become.
P.S: I don’t like rude people.
